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Hi SEers. John here with you again. I hope you all had a great weekend and are looking forward to the week. Okay, I know that sounded a little bit desperate but having a post responsibility on a Monday is a little like doing stand-up comedy at an 8:00 AM session of a funeral directors’ convention.
Today I want to talk a bit about our motivation and our writing. No, I’m not going to give tricks on how to motivate the writing experience. I have already done that number. On the contrary, I want to take a few minutes to discuss a few of the motivation killers to become recognizable.
I know we try to convince ourselves that we don’t need the motivation to write. We love doing it so much that all we have to do is sit down at the keyboard, and we are off and running. I think we can all agree that writing doesn’t always go that way. So why not? What are the things that are inhibitors of an idyllic writing life? I can name a few.
The first thing that could get in the way of motivation on any given day is feelings of self-doubt. It perches on the shoulder and squawks nonsense in the ear. You may not have had a visit from this unpleasant bird, but it says things like, “You sure about that storyline?” The bird can also be pretty blunt. “That one-star review you got maybe more true than just hateful.” In any case, self-doubt can do more to slow down writing progress than any single other cause. Self-doubt is hard to overcome because it comes from the one person who is most familiar with the writer. It comes from the self.
The second thing that could be a roadblock to motivation is the feeling that the craft skills are not up to the task at hand. Showing not telling, world-building, excellent character, and plot development, are all the things discussed time and time again as essential to good writing. Sometimes it can almost be overwhelming. Too much concentration on getting everything right may lead to not even wanting to begin. It is like asking a golfer if they breathe out or in on their golf swing. It is a sure bet on the swing after the question; the golfer will hit a miserable shot because of overthinking about the breath.
The third thing that could affect motivation is the general satisfaction the writer receives from the work. If the work involves struggling to achieve happiness, then it would take a strong person to continue to face that uphill battle every time sitting down to write. If there is no satisfaction achieved in writing, then motivation will be non-existent for the average person.
I think we all have been a victim of each of these motivation killers at one time or another. Knowing these motivation killers are out there is a recognition that they are not unusual. This recognition is the first step in the elimination of their effect. It is up to each of us to continue to keep them at bay.
How about you? Have you been in the grips of a motivation killer? Tell us in the comments how you broke free.
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There is an attempt at humor there.
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Well, that was rather harsh to say you were a ‘prisoner’ for decades!
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So relatable John. Great post. 🙂
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Thank you, Debby. 😁
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Could relate to it! Great post! 👍
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Thank you, fidele
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Thank you for sharing the post on motivation killers.
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It is very important to know about the killers of motivation to avoid falling into these traps. However, I think that everything could hurt or even kill, at a particular stage, if we aren’t aware that motivation comes first. In my opinion, we need to search for one thing only: motivation; and at the same time, we need to avoid thinking about things that may hurt. I do write my articles on landioustravel.com for tourists to read. It took me up to 3 years to train but I never give up … I go high
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Yes, it can be so hard. I know for me when I’ve written a thoughtful post and get very little feedback it can be a little disheartening.
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That can be true as well. Thanks for sharing, Michelle. 😊
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Thank you, John!!!
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Great post, John. All of those things can throw us off track, for sure. The biggest one for me, however, is having way too much to do and not enough time in which to do it. When I’m trying to handle too many things at once, most of which have deadlines involved, I can’t find much time for writing. And worse yet, the time I do find isn’t as productive as it should be because in the back of my mind, I know I have these other things hanging over my head.
We are our own worst enemies sometimes, aren’t we? Thanks for these reminders. Sharing! 🙂
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HI John, thanks for sharing these three motivation “killers”. I don’t know why anyone would write if they don’t get satisfaction from it, after all, unless you are Stephen King or JK Rowling it is not a big money spinner. You can learn the tools of the craft if you are diligent and put the effort in so for me that one isn’t a bit handbrake. Self doubt, now that is a killer of motivation and confidence, and it is the most difficult one to overcome.
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Of the three I think self doubt has taken more writers out of the craft. It is a hard thing to overcome. I face it everyday.
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Do you? I am surprised. You always seem so confident and your writing is very good.
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Self doubt has been with me for years. I have learned to kick it back when it threatens to overwhelm. I have also overcome self doubt by working very hard. I wrote that piece for Story Empire in part to inspire others not to give in to self doubt or feel they are alone. I have to say I am confident but never take it for granted. Thank you, Robbie.
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Excellent post, John! 🙂 Good to know I’m not alone…
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You are not alone for sure, Bette.
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You’ve hit on something here that we’ve all experienced at one time or another, John. For me, the best motivator is a good review from someone I’ve never heard of saying they loved a story. That will get me fired up quicker than anything! Thank you for sharing!
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I agree. Thank you, Jan.
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Excellent post, John! I especially like the golf analogy. I do believe there is such a thing as too much advice. My sports analogy is similar. I used to coach little league baseball, and sometimes there are so many people offering advice to a kid (some of it contradictory) that you can almost see the wheels spinning. I’m sure writers go through the same thing at times.
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I think writers do go through the same thing, Pete. You have to wonder who is the best expert on advice. Sometimes it is difficult to find consistency. Thanks for your comment. 😊
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Yes, most bloggers lose their way because they do not understand their own why, the reason they are blogging for.
Your own mind should be satisfied First by what you write before you put your writing across to the world…
Regards..
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Having direction in a blog is the first step in producing satisfied work. All bloggers should answer the question, “What do I want to accomplish with my blog.” Thank you, Jas for the comment. 😊
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You are welcome..
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A timely posting! I go through self-doubt frequently and it can stop me writing for days at a time. What usually happens is the urge to write takes over again and when I read through my last chapters my perspective is less skewed. I do think you need sensitivity to write well and without it you can be left with a brash self-confidence that doesn’t stand you in good stead. This is such a valuable post, John, and written beautifully of course!
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Thank you so much Alex. I fight self doubt every day. Sometimes I win big and other times not so much. I’m so glad you left this comment. Thank you also for the wonderful compliment. 😁
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At least one of them – at least every week. I plod on, bat away the squawking bird. Thanks, John, a great post.
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Every time, before I publish a book, I worry that it’s not good enough. I’m used to that now and expect it. When it comes to writing the book, I always remind myself that the first draft won’t be perfect. I just need to get it done. it can even have big flaws. It might even suck. But that’s what rewrites are for. I can fix things. And having solid critique partners I trust makes a big difference. When they read my work and say it’s ready, I know it has to be at least decent.
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Yes having trusted critique partners is a big plus for sure, Judi. Thanks for the comment.
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Great analysis, John! Thank you, because because dealing with it means avoiding it.xx Michael
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Thank you , Michael.
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You’ve nailed it, John! When I struggle to write, I tend to fall in one (or all) of these categories. Great post! 😊
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I think we go in and out for sure. Thanks Yvette.
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Self-doubt has been holding me back for months. It was easy to blame the pandemic, but I know that wasn’t the problem at all.
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Write your self doubt a note and let it know it should take a walk for a while. Who knows it might help. I feel your pain. I live with self-doubt on a daily basis. Thanks for the comment, Janet.
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Absolutely, John. Self-doubt or second-guessing one’s self can paralyze creativity and production. Talking one’s self off the ledge, so to speak, is a learned skill. Yet, some days, that little voice still creeps in from time to time.
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It is with me everyday. I have learned to ignore it once I type the first word. Getting to that first word sometimes feels like I have gone hand to hand with a grizzly. Lucky for me it isn’t often that severe. Thank you Sue. 😊
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As a newbie to writing it was good to learn what is making me reluctant to write. Hopefully I can confront those roadblocks and learn to get past them. Listening to music sounds like a start.
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Yes it is. You also need to force your way through the episodes. More writing gets more comfort. Best wishes to you in your writing. 😊
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Thanks for the tip and encouragement.
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Best wishes. 😊
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Those three hit a lot. For me, they tend to be triggered by an outside factor. I can be motivated and focused for days then get detailed by someone souring my mood. It doesn’t even have to be a writing-related incident. I just need to have my anxiety and depression triggered. Then it’s back to tv on and watching the ceiling fan.
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I know what you mean. Self doubt is the one I struggle with all the time. Is a battle every day. Thanks for your comment.
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I’ve experience all those things. Not sure how I got over them, except to sit and write. They still pay a visit from time to time. Most recently after publishing two books within weeks, exhaustion visited. I kept wondering “if” I ever wanted to write again. But now that the tours are over, the creative juices are once again flowing.
I also agree with Mae. I used to devour books about the writing craft and most of the time I wondered if I would ever be able to write. I’ve all but stopped reading them, only referring to reference books when needed.
Good post, John. And I had to chuckle about doing stand-up comedy at a funeral director’s convention. 🙂
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Thank you, Joan. I actually did a stand up routine in front of a bunch of born again Christians from Alabama and was covered with so much flop sweat it became funny to me. Still have nightmares. Push through the killers is the only way. Thanks. 😊
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Wonderful reminders, John. It’s reassuring to know that I’m not “the only one” who tackles these motivation downers. Sometimes it’s faith or humility that carves a path forward for me. Thank you for sharing encouragement. 😊
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Shining the light on these makes them less in control. Knowing others suffer the same challenges makes it a little easier to keep going. (at least for me) Thank you, Gwen
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Making time is a big motivation killer for me. If I have to squeeze in writing in an already tight schedule, many times I forgo it. Laziness is the flip side of that….I finally have some free time and want to spend it reading a book at the pool rather than pounding away on my keyboard. In both cases I have to force myself to write.
I also recall a time many years ago when I devoured craft books. I got so hung up on all the nuts and bolts of writing, it sucked the creativity out of me. As you mentioned above, I was too focused on getting all the techniques just right, and couldn’t see past this. To this day, I will rarely (if ever) read a craft book for that reason!
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Thank you, Mae. Time is a killer for sure. I’m glad you have avoided the craft books. Your writing is superb and if that took out the creativity then the heck with trying to do more. I wish I had two more hours in a day. 😁
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Finding and making time and/or laziness is pretty much my main motivation killer, too.
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So true, Jennie. Thanks for the update.
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Thank you for sharing, Jeanne. 😊
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Very insightful. I am a constant self-doubter. My only method in times like this are to review my storyboard and take smaller focus on the sections I’m writing. Then I plow through it.
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Good approach, Craig. The key is to not give in to that critical voice. 😁
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Thank you, Don. 😊
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Thank you so much, Chris. 😊
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My pleasure, John 👍😃
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Hangovers. x
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Yeah those could kill motivation for sure. Thanks. 😊 I guess I would just keep on drinking. Hemmingway said, “Write drunk, edit sober.”
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I’ve definitely been a victim of these at one time or another. Great post, John. Until we see the issue, we can’t deal with the issue, so it’s helpful seeing them listed here. Thanks for sharing 🙂
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My whole objective was just to air the laundry. I think each of us struggle in our own way and when we see others haveing the same problem there is an awareness of a shared situation that somehow makes the problem seem less critical. Thanks, Harmony 😊
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I recognize all of those. I’m not sure how I got past any of them, other than just sitting at the keyboard and plowing through. Maybe being self-aware is the first step. Great post.
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Notice I didn’t give a lot of advice on overcoming them. I just wanted to throw some light and maybe others won’t feel so alone. Like you, I have been bedeviled with these and stilam to some degree. Thanks, Staci. 😊
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This is a really good reminder to identify what can negatively affect our writing. I feel that I’ve been getting better at the second and third items. Probably due to the practice of writing and being open to continue learning about the craft. The first item is a big one with me. For years, it affected me so much that I didn’t finish long stories and didn’t self-publish. It’s taken me a while to view self-doubt as part of my life, and I need to work with it — not try to “overcome” it. I still feel a lot of self-doubt, but I think of it as “keep working on the story, keep polishing it.” That’s caused me to enjoy editing more than I used to. Putting time and care into editing has shaped my stories and myself.
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You and I share the same battle with self doubt, Dave. It hits me on a daily basis and for some reason has become stronger the more I continue to write. I might put that down to age but in any case your advice to live with it is the best I’ve seen. Thank you for your comment today. Makes me feel that maybe I’m not the only one afflicted. That is a good thing for sure. 😁
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A friend suggested that I pretend to sit down with my self-doubt with a cup of coffee and chat with it to learn about it. That has led to a change in perspective, as I can now see how self-doubt can be beneficial. And it’s a strong anti-arrogance feature.
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Very useful, Dave. I just suggested to someone with a self doubt issue to write the self doubt a letter. Same kind of thing.
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Excellent post, John, and very common causes, I’d say. Thank you. I’m with Jill and listen to a lot of music while writing. It doesn’t always improve the standard of the output but helps calm the atmosphere. Of course, if we did think ourselves and our words too superior, we’d remain stagnant and boring. Long live curiosity and learning….
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A great comment, Joy. Sometimes we have to just let it go and figure out what to do with what we have at the end. 😁
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I keep telling myself that a first draft is supposed to be awful, and that’s what edits are for, isn’t it? Whether this is true or not, it sure works a treat around here!
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You are so right. To slow down and edit as I go is a big killer of creativity for me. Thanks, Jaye. 😊
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I love to write, but not to edit, so I keep them far apart!
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Me too.
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Fantastic post, John! I can relate to all three, but number two is where I tend to pitch my tent. I’m definitely an overthinker which often squashes my creativity. Turning on some music is usually how I break free.
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That is an excellent way, Jill. I used to write to music and I’m not sure why I stopped. Thank you for the contribution. 😊
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Great post
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Thank you. 😁
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Great post, John 🙂 You hit on three things that certainly have been issues for me at one time or another. The second one can be the one that holds me back the most, trying to address everything we need to make our writing the best. All I can do is keep learning and improving with each book I write, and to remind myself how much I’ve learned already.
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That is all you can do, Denese. The nice part is the more we wrte the better we become. (or at least less sloppy. 😁) Thanks for your comment.
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